Coming to therapy is brave. There are things in your life that you want to change, and change is rarely easy. So you are taking an important step – reaching out for help. It can feel awkward, uncomfortable and maybe even terrifying to come into the office of a complete stranger and share your story. The most important thing for me as a counselor is to create a space where you can feel comfortable and begin to heal. I believe that you are the expert on your life and that you have the answers within you, it is my job to help you learn how to listen to yourself.
One of the ways we do this work is to get to know different aspects of your personality, and what each “part” of yourself is worried about, or where it is stuck. For example, many people have parts that like to detach from reality by having a drink or surfing the internet. You may have parts that feel really anxious in social situations, or depressed when you are by yourself. When parts feel heard and understood, rather than pushed away, they can begin to change.
People tend to carry their past with them, living through the emotions that originated in times of difficulty, abuse or neglect. One of the techniques I use in sessions is called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). This is a therapy that helps the brain reorganize how trauma is stored so that a person does not get triggered by everyday events or interactions with people. EMDR can be a powerful intervention that allows one to move out of old patterns of reactivity.